Forgive me, I checked you.

The Internet has made dating so much easier. Match.com and the likes are raking in the cash!!!! As people are getting married, so are people getting single. In fact, the divorce rate has tripled in the last decade.  Thanks to the 7 years itch and other numerous factors, relationships and marriages are falling apart. (Hopefully that wouldn’t be you) lol!

Have you ever done a background check on anyone you were dating or had him/her flowed by a private detective only to come up with nothing? Sometimes you even find close family and friends helping you out with this without your consent. What if you thought he/she was having an affair only to discover that they are innocent? I personally will feel completely stupid!! Now you can deal with your emotions but when your significant other finds out, it’s a different story completely. You have no control over the other person’s reaction. He/She might leave or stay, throw the biggest fit ever, anything can happen.  Once they find out, it usually opens the door to insecurities. Then questions arise “Don’t you trust me?” then the big question, “Why are we even together if you cant trust me?”

Truth is no matter how hard you try to explain, it still wouldn’t sit well with the other person. It takes a very logical person to understand the basis for your actions. If when there is no basis for it. And yes, you will have to go through the long and painful process of apologizing, asking for forgiveness, and pulling all the stops to make the person feel special. This could cost more than the amount you spent on hiring a private investigator!!

 Now lets flip the script, shall we? What would you do if you discovered that your significant other had you followed and investigated by a private detective? Would you end the relationship?  How would you react?